Anonymous said: I asked before about my coworker- we settled on a day to meet, but then he never got back to me. It's that day now, and he's still not answering. I don't get why I keep getting blown off by guys. I can't help but feel like I'm doing something wrong, or it's my fault... Not trying to toot my own horn here but I've been told I'm quite beautiful, I'm young, and I have an amazing job, what gives??? Why am I always alone? Why won't guys date me?
I said this the other day and I’ll say it again: Having a crush on a co-worker and wanting to go on a date with him is a potentially horrible idea, and you might have just gotten yourself a get out of jail free card, so don’t sweat it.
There are plenty of reasons he might not have gotten back to you, which I’ll list in bullet point form below:
- He might have a girlfriend who isn’t that keen on her boyfriend meeting up for drinks with girls from work
- He might not have realised it was a set in stone arrangement
- He might have made plans with his friends
- He might have had literally anything else come up
- He might just not be that interested in meeting up with a co-worker outside of the office
In my personal experience, I worked in an office for about 10 months or so, and I’d hang out with my workmates from time to time, it was great, but I would always choose plans with my friends over my workmates every single time because at the end of the day, it’s nice to have the distinction between your friends at work, and your friends in your downtime.
I assure you there’s nothing wrong with you, but maybe you need to learn to go with the flow a little bit more, relax, and not be so obsessed with the idea of dating someone. It’s okay to be alone. We all do it, and that’s the time in your life when you get to work on your own personal attributes and figure out what you’re looking for.
As every wise person ever has said: If you can’t be happy by yourself, you’ll never be happy with somebody else.
And finally, I will tell you that I had one friend who was so obsessed with the idea of being in love that she’d basically fall for every single guy who looked her way no matter how completely wrong for her he might have been. She went on plenty of dates, but 99% of the guys were freaked out by how strong she came on and how she appeared to be wanting to lock it down before she’d even gotten to know the guy properly.
Don’t be like that!