Anonymous said: Hi Isaac! A few nights ago I went home with a guy from a party. He was extremely charming. Thing is, he couldn't keep my name straight the entire night. And I couldn't go through with sleeping with him because the part of me that always thought I'd have that experience with someone I loved and who loved me back took over. Eventually he passed out and I left. I guess I just want to know if theres any chance of him having a genuine interest in me after all that. -A very inexperienced 20 yr old
Explain to me how someone who doesn’t remember your name is charming? Did he keep calling you the wrong name in an extremely charming fashion? I’m confused.
Here’s a good test for whether or not he has a genuine interest in you: Don’t call him or message him or add him on Facebook or like his Instagram photos or favourite his Tweets or Snapchat him or anything like that — in fact do not contact him at all — and see if he attempts to get in touch with you.
If he does, gauge the type of messages he sends you. Does he want to hang out during the day? Does he seem to have any kind of genuine interest in who you are as a human being? Does he talk about anything real? Or does he hit you up around 10:00pm or later, ask you to come over to his apartment and only message you when he’s drunk?
If he does the former, he might be genuinely interested. If he does the latter, it’s safe to say he’s only interested in one thing.